Trying to have a loving relationship but find yourself sometimes angry and unkind to your partner.
Some ideas: Love wants the good of the other. When we say we love someone by definition love wants the good of the other person. Not what we want. So how do we develop loving habits. A suggestion, before you speak or act ask yourself “Is this a loving act.” If what you are about to do or say does not pass this test STOP THINK AND if it does not pass be silent. Rethink your act or words and change them to loving words or actions or just don’t do them.
Make this a habit.